Finding Your Purpose as an Empath
Do you identify as an Empath? Or a Highly Sensitive Person?
Do you believe that living your purpose is closely tied to helping others?
As a Highly Sensitive Person myself, for many many years I obsessed over the question “what’s my purpose?”
Not only would I ruminate day in and day out over it but then I had social media and the wellness world telling me I needed to have it both figured out AND monetized it like…….yesterday.
I felt like I was on a never ending pendulum swing between the shame of having not “figured it out” by now and anxiety that I would never figure it out.
The only seemingly clear and consistent thing to me whenever I thought about it was that I had a natural skill / talent for helping people.
I was always the person that everyone turned to for advice, leaned on during tough times and came to when they were in crisis or needed to make a tough decision.
Because of that I just started to make the natural assumption that my purpose - the reason I was born - was to do that.
To be of service to others.
Not only did I have that as a lived experience, but as a black woman in America I also had society re-enforcing that's why I was here.
So in my desperate (and very human) attempts to answer this question, I leaned heavily into the idea that my entire purpose and identity were completely tied to helping / being of service to other people.
If you had asked me at the time if that brought me joy, I would have said yes. I loved seeing other people thrive (and I still very deeply do).
But the other side of that coin was that my sense of purpose was completely dependent on someone else and how they were doing.
Because I didn’t have proper energetic boundaries, my identity was intricately linked with the energy of others in an unhealthy and unsustainable way.
This meant that:
I often felt drained
I would become burned out with nothing left to give (myself or others)
I was consumed by others’ opinions, problems, emotions and energy
I was confused: unclear what belonged to me (emotionally / energetically) and what belonged to others
I would feel resentful
I reached the boiling point around this in 2020 and the breaking point in 2021.
I knew I was meant to support others in some capacity but not like this.
I was exhausted, tired of the same burnout cycle and knew something needed to change.
I started to deepen my own personal healing work in somatic liberation practices, nervous system regulation and trauma informed energy healing.
And with the brilliant work of Brionna Ned’s ‘Sustainable Life Cadence’ program, I was able to completely shift the experience of my purpose and supporting others from being life / energy draining to life / energy affirming.
Not only did my literal offerings change but the way I showed up in my work and in my relationships also massively shifted.
This is exactly why, after seeing these same patterns and concepts play out with the participants in my Corporate to Creative Cohort that I led this summer, Brionna and I have teamed up to create a workshop to support those who identify as Empaths / Highly Sensitive in the pursuit of their purpose.
This is for you if you:
Identify as an Empath / Highly Sensitive
Find yourself in continual cycles of burnout / service to others fatigue
Trying to figure out your purpose but find yourself confused or overwhelmed
Know your purpose has something to do with helping others but not sure how to do so sustainably
In this 2 hour workshop you will:
Understand the nuanced realities of being an empath
Identify the energetic blueprint of your specific unique purpose
Clear the energetic and emotional blocks preventing you from embodying your purpose
Shift the experience of your purpose (or idea of your purpose) from draining to sustainable and energizing
Create actions to start moving towards living in your purpose immediately
My newsletter subscribers will receive a 15% off discount until Monday, October 30th using the code FIFTEENPERCENT.
You can find out more information here and please reach out if you have any questions!